Feb. 19, 1928 – Jan. 11, 2021
Pilar Monroe Schneider — educator, businesswoman, mother of Stanley Schneider, April Schneider Farley, John Schneider and Robert Schneider and grandmother of eight, Sean Meagher, Crystal Meagher, Elle King, Asia Schneider, Alex Schneider and Asia Schneider, died of natural causes in Pacifica, Calif., at the age of 91. She was the widow of Pacifica businessman and Realtor Marvin Schneider.
Pilar’s life was remarkably challenging yet incredibly productive. She was an elementary school teacher in Pacifica for nearly 30 years. Pilar’s students would marvel at how, decades later, she would remember their names.
After receiving her master’s degree from San Francisco State University, she became a special education teacher. Eventually, Pilar served two terms on the Pacifica School Board where she received more votes in Pacifica than President Bill Clinton. She was also twice elected president of the board.
Pilar and husband Marvin ran a foundation established with their son that brought music education programs back to Pacifica. It ran for 15 years. When Marvin died, Pilar took the reins of the foundation.
Thankfully, music is still played in Pacifica schools.
As busy as she was, Pilar also had fun appearing in TV commercials and being a frequent presence in her son Rob’s feature films, with roles in five of his movies, including “Deuce Bigalow: Male Gigolo,” “The Animal,” “The Hot Chick,” and “Big Stan.”
Born in the Philippines of an Indonesian mother, Victoria, and an American soldier, Stanley Monroe, Pilar was the youngest of five children. Amid the strife of World War II, her brothers John and Bill were killed by the Japanese military, while Pilar, her two sisters Jean and Rose and their mother were incarcerated in a Japanese concentration camp.
Following the war and upon graduation from the University of Santo Tomas, Pilar traveled to the United States as a U.S. citizen.
After some time on the East Coast, she settled in San Francisco where she miraculously was reunited with her father when a piece of mail for her was mistakenly delivered to him.
After a brief marriage that produced two children, Pilar carried on as a single mother to son Stanley and daughter April while working as an insurance adjuster. At a parents’ meeting to address the dispensation of San Francisco’s childcare system, she encountered Marvin Schneider. They fell in love, were married and would go on to have two sons, John and Rob.
Over the past decade, Pilar spent as much time as she could in her beloved town of Pacifica as well as living with her son and his wife, Patty, in Los Angeles.
Pilar is remembered as a smart, resourceful, determined, kind-hearted woman, a beloved wife and a proud mother. She is survived by her sister Rose, her sister-in-law Lenice, her children Stanley, April, John, and Rob, her stepdaughter Linda, her grandchildren Sean, Crystal, Ashley, Alexandria, Asia, Elle, Miranda, Madeline, Marc, and Amy, and her great-grandchildren Ryder, Willa, Greysen, Finn, Koko, Melina, Sean, Megan and Mateo.
Funeral services will be held this Friday in Colma where she will be laid to rest next to her husband, Marvin “Unforgettable.” Pilar is “Unforgettable too.”